As part of my personal development, I make a routine of reading and watching all things motivational and inspirational. One of my all time favourites is the legend Anthony Robbins and something that I have found particularly enlightening this month is his theory of  “The 6 Human Needs”.
These needs can be met in an million different ways, both negative and positive, and the theory is that by taking time to address how we attempt to meet them, we are able to create new patterns and develop lasting  fulfilment. So, as it is Valentines Day, I thought it appropriate to take a look at Love first.
Love/Connection – a strong feeling of closeness or union with someone or something.
As social animals it is important for us to be able to make meaningful connections with others and it is suggested that this bonding helps us to balance our inner need for significance of the self.  Some of us understand that love, when true and deep, can literally make us feel alive but we also know that when it is lost, the pain can be unbearable.  In that respect, many choose to simply feel “connection” as it is safer and less painful.  Connection can come in the form of relationships with others, prayer, being in nature and all manner of ways.
So what does this mean? How do we meet our needs? We may work harder, make up a big problem, rationalize behaviour. We need to take a look at the love and connection in our life.  How do we satisfy this need? Do we do it in a positive or negative way? And, what i’m most interested in is how we satisfy the need to truly love ourself? How many of us “hold on” to bad thought patterns about ourself and do we know why we do it?
I challenge you to take some time to make a list of all these things mentioned and find out if you can develop some new and healthier patterns.